What makes a trans man a man and a trans woman a woman?
Medical and psychological associations give the words sex and gender different definitions based on what we know through scientific studies about human sexuality. [What are Sex & Gender? By The National Institutes of Health] Sex refers mostly to biological characteristics such as chromosomes, hormones, organs, etc. For gender, there’s gender identity and gender expression. Gender identity is similar to how most people don't choose the gender they're attracted to. We also found that we don't choose the sex we identify with. It's a core aspect of a person’s deep sense of self and how they perceive themselves in relation to the world around them and others. Most people have a gender identity, but for trans individuals, their gender identity does not align with the sex they were assigned at birth. We partly know gender identity isn’t a choice from decades of research on unsuccessful conversion therapies. There’s also decades of research that shows extremely low regret rates after trans people transition. There is the substantial increase in mental health when trans people can live in sync with their gender identity. There is also what trans people will tell you from their personal experience, and more. Many of these studies are further down this page, including [Gender Identity is Not Chosen] It's a part of us, much like something that is biologically a part of the brain, just like sexual orientation. We found that it is rooted in biology. [Neurological and Biological Research on Gender Identity] The brain influences many behaviors, like how we also don't choose right or left handedness. Sex and gender are not completely separate from one another. Gender is more of a subcategory of sex. Sex and gender describe different parts of us, but they are interconnected with each other, because gender identity is rooted in biology. What about the saying that gender is a social construct? Gender identity includes identifying with non-societal aspects of a sex, like anatomy, which is why transitioning is vital to the mental health of many trans people. However, as we grow up in a society where one sex expresses themselves differently from another, since we identify with a certain sex, we eventually attach those expressions to our identity, even subconsciously, and this is Gender Expression. Gender expression has varied differently throughout history. It is a social construct, while gender identity is an innate part of gender. Gender expression is parts of our individuality that are shaped by what we find inspiring, happy, or exhilarating through life. It's what makes us feel content with ourselves from observing diverse expressions from people who we feel match our gender identity. It’s also important to note how gender expression is not necessarily gender stereotypes or views about gender roles. It’s what we like to associate with ourselves, rather than how we view the majority of a certain sex, including stereotypes or roles. [Gender Identity & Expression is Not Based on Stereotypes] Gender identity has more influence to someone’s life than chromosomes. What matters the most when it comes to daily life is gender identity and people’s ability to live in sync with it. Reproductive organs are important for having a baby (trans people who have transitioned can have children through artificial insemination or adoption), however those things aren’t a part of regular daily life. This makes gender identity the most influential part of a person’s sex. What makes up a person is more than their chromosomes, and that’s a good thing, because it’s a part of an intelligent mind. Referring to trans women as men because of their chromosomes is like calling a wood chair a tree. There are many other important aspects to people other than their chromosomes or gametes. Rather than making the incorrect claim that those who support trans rights are in denial of sex when they use pronouns that reflect a person’s gender identity, they are recognizing the scientific reality of both sex and gender. Language is made by us, and we change it based on new scientific knowledge and perspectives. How we choose to use it is reflection of our views or knowledge. So, misgendering trans people says more about the person misgendering than the person being misgendered. [About Trans People & Scientific Sex and Gender Definitions] When referring to non-trans women as biological women, it’s inaccurate because gender identity is rooted in biology. Trans women’s anatomy is biological, and trans women are also women. Calling trans women males is also still misgendering. However, there’s a better way. It’s the words Cis and Trans. So, male and female refer to sex, and when we say trans female, doctors know it means their biology is different from cis females. Just like the intersex condition known as the XX Male, when people are born intersexually in other ways, doctors need to distinguish that they have a unique anatomy in a certain way. It’s vital for many trans people to transition because a large part of gender identity is identifying with the anatomy of a certain sex. It’s also why puberty is incredibly difficult for trans people to go through, because the body starts to change away from the gender identity in the brain. As a result, we experience gender dysphoria the most during our teen years.
Transgender = Transcendent Gender Identity
Instead of "transforming" or "transitioning" gender, transgender people, or trans people, are those whose gender transcends the ordinary. They are people whose gender is different from the sex assigned to them at birth. [Understanding Transgender People, by the American Psychological Association] Some of them may experience Gender Dysphoria, a condition characterized by a persistent sense of discomfort or distress due to the incongruence between their gender identity and their assigned sex. It can lead to severe depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts. [Gender Dysphoria] This compels them to eventually transition so their bodies are in sync with their gender identity, which is recommended as a vital treatment by every leading medical organization. It may include social transition, puberty blockers, hormone therapy, or gender affirmation surgeries. However, not all trans people desire or are able to access these treatments.
Likewise, cisgender people or cis people refers to people whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth. As a shorthand, it can be used as cis man or cis woman. It’s also not intended to be used in every situation when we refer to cisgender men and women. Just as in every day conversation, trans women mostly prefer to be referred to just as women. However, these terms are helpful when we’re talking about topics related to gender.
The word "cis" comes from Latin, where it means "on the same side." Although, the relationship between the words "cis" and "trans" in the context of gender identity actually comes from chemistry. In organic chemistry, the terms "cis" and "trans" are used to describe the spatial arrangement of atoms or functional groups in a molecule. If two groups are on the same side of a carbon-carbon double bond, the molecule is referred to as "cis." If they are on opposite sides, the molecule is referred to as "trans." The use of these terms was then adopted by biologists studying the structure of DNA, where they were used to describe the orientation of the bases on either side of a double helix. [The Word Cisgender Has Scientific Roots]
The word transgender is a term that encompasses a wide range of identities. Along with trans men and trans women, it may also include individuals who identify as non-binary. [The American Academy of Pediatrics] Transgender can also refer to those who identify as a third gender. In many cases, these are people from different cultures that have recognized more than two genders for more than a millennium. [Third Gender] Many people who go by Two-Spirit also consider themselves to be transgender. Two-spirit people are from Native American traditions that originated long before European colonization.[Two-Spirit People]
Transgender people have been documented all throughout human history and in societies all over the world. However, the words they used to describe them have greatly varied with each society. [Transgender History]
Sexual orientation is a person’s emotional or sexual attraction to people of a certain gender or sex. Some names of sexual orientations are heterosexual or straight, homosexual or gay, bisexual or bi, and so on. However, gender identity and sexual orientation are two distinct aspects of a person. Transgender individuals can have any sexual orientation, just like cisgender individuals, who can be straight, gay, or bi. [Transgender Persons, by the CDC]
Studies show gender identity is formed in everyone, both trans and non-trans people, as young as 3 years old.
Around age two: Children become conscious of the physical differences between boys and girls.
Before their third birthday: Most children can easily label themselves as either a boy or a girl.
By age four: Most children have a stable sense of their gender identity.
During this same time of life, children learn gender role behavior—that is, doing "things that boys do" or "things that girls do." However, cross-gender preferences and play are a normal part of gender development and exploration regardless of their future gender identity.
[The American Academy of Pediatrics, Gender Identity Development in Children]
Trans people usually realize at a very young age that they identify with a different sex than they were assigned at birth, and that it’s not a choice. [The Age When Trans People First Realize Their Gender Identity]
This is why teaching children age-appropriate education about LGBTQ+ people is important in fostering a safe and accepting environment for students and child care by displaying values of kindness and respect towards those who are different from themselves, including as children who will grow up in a diverse society. Providing information about LGBTQ+ people can help children who may have similar feelings so that they don’t feel ostracized from the other children for something they don’t choose, which can be very harmful to their mental health.
Puberty is especially harrowing for trans people because the body changes away from the brain’s sense of self, which leads to severe gender dysphoria. There are many studies showing a much higher rate of suicidality in trans adolescents. [The High Suicide Rate with Trans Adolescents] Many other studies have shown that gender-affirming care significantly prevents them from becoming suicidal.
Trans people like me know that trans kids exist, because we were trans kids. For many of us, it was before we knew what the word transgender was, and it was obvious at that time that it’s something we don’t choose, especially during puberty.
It’s important to know that every leading psychological and medical association has asserted many times that gender-affirming care is life saving care. [Statements by Medical & Psychological Organizations] They’ve repeatedly condemned legislation that blocks teen and adult trans people from receiving gender-affirming care. These organizations represent hundreds of thousands of mental health and medical professionals who have been professionally trained to study this subject without bias and in detail. The peer review and empirical scientific process are designed to prevent bias from entering studies. They are independently performed studies done by different people all over the world. Then they are reviewed by many other professionals in their field.